What’s so hard about asking for help?

About a year and a half ago I helped facilitate a youth services program for a Chicago suburb township. It was about teaching social skills to kids.

One activity during the program has stood out to me more than any other. Here it is:

Kids (and I) were blindfolded, told to line up, and informed we would be taking part in a maze. Then, we were led outside by the facilitator to the maze that was set up in the backyard.

The thing is this “maze”, which was compiled of 2x4s on the ground, had no exit.

So, the kids and I were forced to walk around the maze – and around we walked – again and again and again. Meanwhile, the facilitators would shout out, “IF YOU NEED HELP GETTING OUT OF THE MAZE, RAISE YOUR HAND AND ASK FOR HELP.”

And this went on for about a half hour.

It was impactful and personally insightful because it took me an embarrassing amount of time to raise my hand and admit I didn’t know where to go.

The main takeaway, you might guess, was that there are many times in our lives when we find ourselves continually cycling through problems and the problems seem impossible and so puzzling, but often you’ll find our problems might be solved if we can just put our pride to the side, raise our hands, and simply say, “Hey, I don’t know what to do here. Can you help me?”



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