I had a few people reach out to me because they were concerned about my well-being due to the last post I published. I greatly appreciate it. To be honest, it was scary publishing my sadness. I wouldn’t say I feel sad often, but some days, like everyone, I do, and I wanted to show that because I don’t think we’re open about our feelings enough in our culture. I want to be an example (and to younger folks, a role model), and I think part of that means showing that it’s okay to not be okay sometimes.
Life can be hard. Success for me and most others is a tough fight, especially if you’re trying to be intentional about the life you’re living. This is because you know what you’re supposed to be doing and you know where you want to go, but sometimes you can’t do what you want to or should be doing because you have to fulfill your responsibilities and you’re not where you want to be because it takes a long time usually to get where you want to go.
I mean, that is, if you’re ambitious. Some people don’t expect much out of life and don’t set very high expectations for themselves. Some people, in other words, are okay being average. They’re comfortable walking the fine line between contentment and complacency. I encourage you to not be like that. The world needs more people who want more for themselves, people who want to try to be more than good enough, individuals who want to be great people – even if trying to get there seems impossible.
Nelson Mandela, who led the emancipation of South Africa from white minority rule and served as his country’s first black president, said, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
The start of the journey to greatness is easy. It begins with a simple question: “Can I be doing more?” And the questions become more and more self-examining as you grow, eventually taking the form of things like asking for honest feedback from a trusted friend or family member for perspective, grappling with doubt, dealing with insecurity, and working through regret.
Sure, it’s difficult, but in the end, you discover the real meaning behind the saying that the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your questions. You find real success, fulfillment, and happiness.
You have found, in sum, you have lived a rare life of substance.