The ripples in a relationship

No relationship is perfect. There are going to be disagreements. The difference between a good relationship and a poor one is the level of respect you have for each other in those disagreements.

That respect reveals itself by a willingness to listen. You hear the other person out even if it’s not what you want to hear, and if you get upset and defensive and say something you don’t mean, you quickly admit it.

This simmers things down. If you can’t do it, it is one reason why it’s true that pride comes before the fall. If you can’t admit fault, you can’t compromise and, more importantly, you can’t allow the other person to save face.

It shouldn’t seem extreme. For a relationship to thrive, there has to be tension at some point. A group is said to go through a five stage process: forming, storming, norming, performing, and transforming.

This tension or conflict might be called a ripple or wave. Disaster is on the horizon when these become tsunamis. These stillness to tsunami moments or high highs and low lows signify emotional irregularity, a lack of emotional stability, and therefore, a lack of coping. So, be wary, my friends.