My favorite music artist is Logic.
A while back he said that “The definition of a gentleman is someone who makes others feel comfortable.”
For a long time, that quote has swirled around in my head.
I wondered what it meant and what it looked like in action.
Now I’m finally learning with John Bridges’s How to Be a Gentleman.
In essence, a gentleman is someone who acts appropriately, thoughtfully, and kindly – putting other peoples’ feelings above their own.
It’s showing up to a funeral, knowing not to overwhelm others with many words.
It’s not bringing your phone out to dinner.
It’s standing up when introduced.
It’s a refreshing and unique kind of emotional labor and empathy.