Discovering what it means to be a gentleman

My favorite music artist is Logic.

A while back he said that “The definition of a gentleman is someone who makes others feel comfortable.”

For a long time, that quote has swirled around in my head.

I wondered what it meant and what it looked like in action.

Now I’m finally learning with John Bridges’s How to Be a Gentleman.

In essence, a gentleman is someone who acts appropriately, thoughtfully, and kindly – putting other peoples’ feelings above their own.

It’s showing up to a funeral, knowing not to overwhelm others with many words.

It’s not bringing your phone out to dinner.

It’s standing up when introduced.

It’s a refreshing and unique kind of emotional labor and empathy.