Posted on February 1, 2020
If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all. It’s a good rule of thumb, definitely. But it’s tricky to sort out what should be said: when feelings are valid and when people need to be talked to about their poor behavior. When you feel compelled to speak your negative […]
Posted on January 21, 2020
Yesterday I shared my belief that pros live and die by a calendaring system. This post tells you mine. Let’s get this out of the way immediately: I’m not getting paid by Passion Planner. One of my best friends recommended it to me a few weeks ago, and I’ve since adopted its approach. I love […]
Posted on January 19, 2020
If you text someone regularly and you’re always the only one asking questions, that person is displaying that they’re uninterested in understanding you. If you put in a lot of work to make someone feel welcome or special and your work is complained about, you’re unappreciated. Stand up for yourself. Command respect. Self-absorption is, unfortunately, […]
Posted on January 13, 2020
People have a tendency to jump to conclusions about others. It’s easy to navigate on assumptions. The hard thing to do so is to take a step back and try to empathize. While there’s a slim possibility that, yes, your coworker is evil and selfish or your supervisor is judgemental and incompetent, it’s more likely […]
Posted on January 7, 2020
A romantic relationship, at it’s best, feels like the comfort and bliss of youth. A night in bed watching movies together seems like the times when you were young, hanging out with your best friend – because that person is your best friend. That best friend dotingly cares for you while you’re sick, believes in […]
Posted on January 2, 2020
As we grow up and grow out from our family roots, we settle into our own world. There, surrounded by our first stuff, it can be easy to become selfish. Independence allows us to be insular, to isolate ourselves from what’s uncomfortable or contradictory. In relationships, the isolation might make us act in a way […]
Posted on December 31, 2019
Take a moment this new year to tell someone that you appreciate them. In 2020, I resolve to try to remember that everyone is just giving it their best shot and to do my best to make people feel important, comfortable, and special. Good luck with your resolutions, friends.
Posted on December 24, 2019
This time of year can be tough on relationships. Our significant other’s families can be difficult to tolerate. Show up still if the family is important to them. A good person does the right things for people they love, especially when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable.
Posted on December 18, 2019
Speak your needs and feelings. The discomfort you feel will dissipate. It’s better to fight for a better life by being honest with people about their shortcomings than to live with dull satisfaction in your relationships. Confront them – kindly and respectfully. And make your life (and friends) better.
Posted on November 4, 2019
The hurt doesn’t go away for a lot of folks. It lies beneath, waiting for a hard moment when it will be invigorated and begin launching dull, persistent attacks on their fortress of emotional stability and hope. They believe that it can be ignored, that they can get by for a long time lying to […]