Self-actualization Category

I’m afraid and you are too because life is hard and we’re human – and that’s okay

It’s okay to be afraid. I’m afraid. Heck, some days I’m completely terrified. That’s my vulnerable truth. I kind of hate it. I want to be honest about my fears so you know you’re not alone: Not getting a job after I complete my master’s degree, Not having good enough recommendations, Not measuring up to […]

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You’re not your heroes or your role models, so stop comparing yourself to them

You’re you. Here’s something I wish I knew about a long time ago that I’ve only recently figured out: Almost everyone thinks they have the right answers. Almost everyone thinks you should be like them. And almost no one, when they give advice, takes the time to get to know you and where you’re coming […]

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There’s nothing greater than love

A romantic relationship, at it’s best, feels like the comfort and bliss of youth. A night in bed watching movies together seems like the times when you were young, hanging out with your best friend – because that person is your best friend. That best friend dotingly cares for you while you’re sick, believes in […]

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Hobbies are okay and (sometimes) necessary

You can’t be and do all things. So do what’s important, and consider what’s left a hobby. Despite what the rise of the side hustle might suggest, hobbies are okay. They allow (and are sometimes necessary for) you to live a full life, grow in self-knowledge, and satisfy your creative urges. Complementarily, if you don’t […]

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Moderation is essential

Developing a healthy lifestyle is not about living perfectly. While some rare eccentrics can wake up every day, follow the same routine, and eat exactly 1,900 calories a day, chances are you can’t do that. It’s more likely that if you try to live a “perfect” life, you’ll be miserable and end up failing or […]

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It ain’t always tit for tat

As we grow up and grow out from our family roots, we settle into our own world. There, surrounded by our first stuff, it can be easy to become selfish. Independence allows us to be insular, to isolate ourselves from what’s uncomfortable or contradictory. In relationships, the isolation might make us act in a way […]

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You ain’t gonna drop it no how

This is another take on life from my southern and unique grandma. I’m reinterpreting it for you to mean this: Success is often engendered merely through portrayed confidence. Look the part. Act the part. And you got it. If you believe in something, keep this in your back pocket, and get after it. Too many […]

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A good life requires everyday persistence

An omnipresent anxiety burbles beneath my immediate thoughts because of the number of unknowns in my life, my perfectionism, and an endless list of tasks that are placed on a perpetual backburner. Every day I wake up and strive to live my life just a little better. I tell myself something like, “Okay, Kyle, today […]

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Madness is sometimes hope in disguise

Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is the definition of madness. But this is exactly what we’re doing when we practice. We must do the same thing repeatedly to improve – to hopefully become a master. Madness, then, is sometimes just hope in disguise. HT to Debbie Millman

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“I’m too busy” = “It’s not a priority”

“I’m too busy” means “It’s not a priority.” You make time for what’s important to you. Modern adult life compels us to always be doing things. You must learn to put aside what “needs” to be done to do what matters. This includes going to the gym, taking time for self-care and people you love, […]

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