Society

I’ll have a blog post out this weekend because there wasn’t one out yesterday. 

It’s easy to find something in anyone that you don’t like or that you disagree with.

A part of growing mature is learning to accept people despite your differences.

Just because someone is Catholic, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t spend time with them if you’re gay, so long as they are kind to you.

And so it goes for how cultured someone is, their political beliefs, and their diet.

Peace and utopia, in reality, doesn’t look like some kind of uniform place where everyone looks alike and believes the same things; no – it’s a world where we learn to amicably respect differences and celebrate diversity.

 

Weird comes from the old English word “wyrd,” which means fate or personal destiny.

In this sense, to be weird might be considered to embrace one’s most authentic expression of life.

Weirdness is who we are.

Often when we aren’t weird it’s because we’re conforming to others’ expectations.

And the most compelling people we’ve seen in our lives have been the ones who have embraced themselves, not the ones who have sought to mimic closely everyone else.

Find your truth, your voice, your style.

Embrace the wholeness of who you are.

You just might inspire others.

And you’ll probably be a lot happier.

 

I didn’t publish any posts this weekend.

Instead, I chose to immerse myself in moments.

I think I won’t publish from now on between Friday and Sunday.

I need these moments.

Because these moments allow me to immerse myself in myself so that the writing during the weekdays can be better.

They allow me to live a better life.

They allow me to explore.

And discover the things that need changing.

I wanted to write daily, but it’s simply unsustainable with the amount of work I have to do.

For that, I am sorry.

But the writing will be better this way.

And (I think) it’s only for now.

 

 

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An illustration from Enormous Smallness, a biography about E.E. Cummings, an inspiring hoper

I’m stressed
Overworked and just a mess
I like to practice mental rest
Mindfulness to soothe distress
I’d like to write, read many books, and plan for tests

And plan for papers

And plan for work

And plan for plans so I can practice mental rest

But I’m upset
I’d like to explore and play and swim and joke and snort
And cuddle in a pillow fort

But I’m pressed for time
There’s much to do
Seriousness about hullabaloo

People in charge have decided that funs too fun
And, “Well, there’s a time for that”
It’s set for seven; haven’t you looked?
It’s there within our discipline book

You’re grown now, after all
If you’re to succeed, you must learn to settle with less
What’s all this with creative work, sincerity, and imagination?

Don’t you know the worlds at war?
Our nation’s facing several disgraces
Don’t you know there are czars and greed?
Don’t you know you there are drunks in bars and poverty,
Anxiety, and people in the streets with no food to eat?
Responsibility means you must pursue industry

Adults show up, despite disease
You’ve committed; our society requires you to be
Tired and buttoned-down – to the tee
Speaking of, have you practiced your golf swing?
You’ll need to if you will compete most effectively

Be grateful, it once was worse
Children had to work and didn’t learn
And hours lasted and smoke would burn in city streets

You see: the world is unkind
People lie and care for their lives
They forget they’re kids inside
And choose to hide behind a role that they decide

It’s confusing, I know; I feel it too

And what are we to do?

There’s a secret thing
I’m so happy to share with you:
Don’t listen to those authorities

It’s scary, I know, but success just needs faith and hope

Don’t sacrifice who you are inside
To be a part of something that makes people mope

Hear your heart and help your friends
You might need to plan now and then

But it’s okay to take the time for jokes and snorts and pillow forts

And live your life
Don’t give it up; just keep focus
Practice your passion and commit some time
You might fail but eventually you’ll notice

You’ve built a life you love
And the dreams people told you to believe were true
They were just a bit tough
There’s no right answer
So don’t worry, keep going, and do what’s right for you

They say more than hello in the morning.

They:

  • Deliver cookies when something happens;
  • Ask you how your day was; and
  • See if you need help with anything.

Small acts of kindness in our immediate communities contribute greatly to long-term happiness.

Yesterday, I wrote about how it’s hard to be reminded too much about the dangers of comparing ourselves and measuring our self-worth based on what we see on social media profiles.

Today, I’d like to build on that idea by additionally stating two things. The first is we are often interacting with someone’s front and, second, the people we see in the media usually aren’t real.

These masks and actors (who are often faked with plastic surgery and good publicists) can make us feel like who we are and what we have aren’t good enough. This is particularly dangerous for romantic relationships.

We might get caught up in the idea that someone out there will be perfect if only we’ll wait just a bit longer. Or, worse, we leave what we have when what we had actually was a really good thing.

The fact is no one is flawless. And even if you meet that dream person, it’s unlikely you’ll be complementary outside of your fantasies.

So I encourage you to be open to possibilities, and ultimately find someone who makes you a better version of yourself.

In 2009, two brothers – Dave and Mike Radparvar – sat on the steps of Union Square in New York City and wrote the following manifesto. They had just quit their jobs and decided they would venture into the fashion industry with zero experience, and they felt they needed a guiding light.

Today, their company Holstee shares a similar mission to my own, namely bringing more meaning and inspiration into people’s lives.

Holstee Manifesto

Here’s the plain text:

“This is your life.  Do what you love, and do it often.  If you don’t like your job, quit.  If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV.  If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love.  Stop over analyzing, life is simple.  All emotions are beautiful.  When you eat, appreciate every last bite.  Open your mind, arms, and heart to new things and people, we are united in our differences.  Ask the next person you see what their passion is, and share your inspiring dream with them.  Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself.  Some opportunities only come once, seize them.  Life is about the people you meet, and the things you create with them so go out and start creating.  Life is short.  Live your dream and share your passion.”

And if you prefer it in video format, here that is as well: The Holstee Manifesto: Lifecycle Video.